DUE Tuesday, September 24, 2013
"A great parent knows how to say no. Many parents find that it’s tough to be firm with their children. They can’t set rules. They threaten but don’t follow through with consequences. ‘No television for a week,’ a mom may tell her child in the afternoon, only to make an exception that very night. But the fact is, if we relinquish our parental authority, we are doing a disservice to our kids." Parents, May, 2011, p.113.
Assignment:
What is your view of the idea that parents need to be firm in disciplining their children? Plan and write a 2-paragraph response that explains your ideas as persuasively as possible. Support your position with an argument and examples for each paragraph you develop. Use two detailed and specific examples. Elaborate with sensory images whenver possible.
"A great parent knows how to say no. Many parents find that it’s tough to be firm with their children. They can’t set rules. They threaten but don’t follow through with consequences. ‘No television for a week,’ a mom may tell her child in the afternoon, only to make an exception that very night. But the fact is, if we relinquish our parental authority, we are doing a disservice to our kids." That’s the thing, the children don’t want their parents to be strict, but after we say that we want them to be unless we want to get hurt and do something stupid like break the law cause our parents didn’t say no. we need our parents to say no and punish us once in a while because children need discipline to learn from their mistakes.
ReplyDeleteThe time we want our parents to not be strict is when we want to hang out with our friends our stay out late. But when they aren’t strict on children who are now teenagers they can do troublesome things. For instance drive without a license, drinking under age, drinking and driving, get a bad tattoo underage, getting jumped, out at night alone, etc. terrible things could happen with children that have parents that are not strict. Children want parents that are not strict but that’s what they need.. There is a big difference between want and need. Get what you need not want.
Blog 3: Parenting
ReplyDeleteParenting is a learning experience for both parents and their children. There are many reasons why a child may to be bad. At a young age children don’t understand why some stuff is wrong and how punishment works. But, as the children mature to turn into teenagers they may still be bad, know the consequences, the results, all the factors yet they still do it. If a parent is not as firm as needed then that’ll be even more of a reason for a child to misbehave. But why do teenagers misbehave; there are many reasons as well. If a child grows up with constrictions, regulations, rules, there is a much greater chance they won’t misbehave when they are teenagers. Except, now-a-day more and more parents are messing up how they are supposed to discipline their kids. Some parents may feel bad; others may not feel like it. But, what makes a kid really be bad? What makes them go out and do stuff they are not allowed to do? Well, growing up I was a child that learned at an early age to be good. My mother always says that a kid acts as they have been guided. If a parent is too strict there child may grow up to become literally mad as in crazy, or a rebel to say the least, rebelling against all the rules they’ve been taught throughout their childhood. If a parent is not strict enough there child may grow up to become unsuccessful. Since a child didn’t know right from wrong as a child they may grow up to still have the mind of a child and may never access the brain of an adult. A child without constrictions may grow up to become an adult but may not know how to be one in the real world.
Say that a parent is not strict enough, there child may grow up into a rebel. They may rebel against their overly strict parents by swearing at them, not doing chores/homework, doing drugs, not coming home at curfew. But why is that? What makes a kid grow up and want to become a rebel? The reason is most likely the parents. The teenager may feel that everything they do is a sin. Everything they touch can harm them. So, they get confused and do what it is they feel like doing for once. Because a parent is too strict may make the child feel uncomfortable even around their own parents.
A not strict enough parent is one that doesn’t have rules or may not stay by those rules. Say a child does not do their homework and they get grounded. Well, what if the child cries and the parents feel bad. What does the child think of their parents when they see them walking away after telling them that they are not grounded anymore? Not enough parenting or parenting that doesn’t follow up to the rules they set can make the child not take them seriously. That same child may not take other children seriously along with other adults in the real world. When children are raised poorly like that that may lead to them becoming unsuccessful in life. They may not know right from wrong and may never learn because that is how they were raised. Parenting can be a child’s downfall along with a child’s uplifting.
Listen up parents! It’s time to show who’s the adult in the house when it comes to being firm with disciplining your children. I agree that parents should be firm and a tiny bit strict with their children especially when they’re teenagers. When we reach the age of teens we have to be taught right from wrong. With that being said parents should teach us like not to be a lazy person, listen when an adult says no, follow the rules, and to NEVER do drugs. Laziness leads to being a tardy person and when you hear someone say no you have to obey their command unless it’s a complicated situation in which you’re getting kidnapped then you will have to break the rules. Parents should be teaching us this kind of stuff so that we end up well-mannered and respecting people. Most of all drugs is something that should not be done it ruins you’re life and when being a teen parents will be talking about this so that we listen when to say no to drugs.
ReplyDeleteParents I think should also ground us when we do something wrong because we will learn from that to never do it ever again. Trust me, being grounded truly sucks but it’s what you get for misbehaving. Sometimes we are taught the hard way by parents but it builds up our courage and gets us ready for adulthood. If a parent has to be strict with us so be it because in the future we’ll be teaching our kids the same thing. For example, when a child refuses to stop you get many consequences such as no television for a week or no going to play soccer for 2 weeks. When this situation comes into play our conscience will appear and we will have to listen to the angel instead of darkness and cruelty. Most importantly parents should be firm and strict with us when it comes to lying because lying as a dishonest thing. We should always tell the truth even though we will face tough consequences but it’s better than feeling butterflies in your stomach and one day you’ll regret doing it and just blurt it out.
I believe that parents should be firm with their children. I believe that by disciplining your children young can prepare them for the future. When children are not disciplined they can get out of hand and be brats. To prevent this disaster parents need to start their kids young. They can do this by punishing bad behaviors and not rewarding them when they act badly. Many parents have a hard time disciplining children because they don't want to hurt their feelings. But parents need to grow tougher skins because if they don't teach them now they will never know the proper way to act.
ReplyDeleteChildren can be very sensitive. Its important not to be too harsh with them. Minor punishments like a timeout or a smack on the wrist will teach a kid right from wrong. Parents need to teach kids to act well while they are young because when they are older they will not be able to get away with everything. For example, if you don't teach your kid that taking another kids toys is wrong then when they grow up they may steal things. Also, if you don't discipline your child after they hit someone they may be violent when they grow up. As you can see being firm while disciplining your kids is important. Although it can be tough and may take more than once it is very important.
- Alexandra Reidy 9/20/13
Parenting
ReplyDeleteI think parents should be firm with their children, because if children don’t learn the consequences of their actions then they might get in a lot of trouble or very hurt. But, parents must also learn the limit of how they should deal with their children, or they might hate you and just keep doing it to get you angry. If you are a parent that can’t ground your children then if the outcome of the child action isn't too drastic then let it happen. If you let it happen then your child will learn not to do it again so he/she will learn from his/her mistake. Sometimes you just need to just ground them like something that will have a very small outcome I would give them a week. But, if it was something big then I would ground them until they proven him/her self to have the luxury of everyday life like TV videogames and etc. Sometimes your partner in life if you have one might feel that it’s a little cruel and give your kid some time to play. If this does happen just have a talk with him/her saying that your child has to learn not to do stuff that has a bad outcome. It will be hard for every parent because some kids are good at persuasion than others so your child will have an advantage but if you are able to look pass it you will not feel guilt from what your child says. Also keep your children away from bad influences like people, drugs, cigarettes, and people. Some people can peer pressure your kid into doing something bad and get him/her hurt or in trouble.
Tyler Medina 9-23-13
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To me, I think that parents should be very strict. Although there is a certain point where parents should hold back and not be on top of every single thing that their child does. Children today are growing up in an environment where they are highly influenced, therefore parents need to be careful on what their children watch and are around. Parents need to help their children go in the right path in life. So that the child may grow up to be successful and be able to provide for themselves without a problem. If the parents just sit back and let the kid do what he or she wants, he or she may not be where they should be in life.
For example, lets say that a couple has a child and they want the best for that child, like every parent should. The child grows up a little and is able to watch and take in material from television. Now the parents put on a educational and fun television program for the kid to watch and learn from, but lets say the parents put on a violent movie that involves blood and adult language and content. Which situation do you think would be better for the parents to do? The first one obviously, now the second option would be a poor choice, a choice that would affect the child in a bad way. So the parents should observe the type of things their children watch and do, so that they will be able to grow up and become successful.
Blog #3
ReplyDeleteMany Parents now a days tend to let their children really do anything. They will let them go out, come back home when ever, buy them what ever, and don’t care whether how good they do in school, or how they act in public. In the other hand, a good parent knows how to set laws and keep their child from causing or leading onto the wrong path in life. A good parent knows how to say no and set laws in the house. A good parent will provide their child with love and comfort and respect. Sometimes when I’m out, I see children cursing at their mother or father, and they let it slide and talk back the same way. In my head, it really bothers me how bad of a vocabulary they are teaching their child. A good bond isn’t one where you can curse with one another. A good bond is where both the child and the parent respect, trust, and love one another.
Even though there are too strict and too laid back parents, there needs to be that well balance between it. A very laid back parent will let anything slip by their child and they will began to take advantage and cause problems later on in their lives, and then the parents always question what they did wrong. Then a too strict parents prevents a child to live their childhood. A parent where TV is limited to an hour a day and a curfew at 5 p.m. is way to strict. Teenagers especially begin to ask more and want to go out more. A well-balanced parent will tell them to do their homework and chores before they go out and then the parent will tell the child when a reasonable time is to return home.
Furthermore, a too laid back parent will cause their child to also be very dishonest to them. While a too strict parent will cause terror to their child to ever speak a lie. There needs to be a balance where the parent can get a honest reply from their child with not so many worries and they will then learn from the mistake by the parent guiding them. If too strict they probably will never cause any harm or ever say a lie but in the future it can affect them by being so tense and unable to relax once or twice. A too laid parent will then be lied on and will have no respect towards them. In conclusion, a great parent will have a neat organized balance between too strict and too laid back and have a wonderful relationship with their parents.
Parents these days aren’t that strict to their children. They try to punish them, but end up not going through with it. Not only is this is bad parenting, but it also affects the child’s future. If children aren’t disciplined correctly, then they can grow up to be disrespectful to their parents, thinking that they can do whatever they want, whenever they want. Then, when they are in the real world, they won’t know right from wrong and end up in jail. A child needs to learn that you can’t just do whatever you want and expect not to have any consequences. If the world really was like that, then there would be chaos everywhere! If children aren’t disciplined, they could very well ruin their lives.
ReplyDeleteParents also need to learn to fairly punish their children. They can’t just punish him/her for a small thing or for nothing. That’s unfair to the child and they will fear their parents, thinking that the simplest mistake will get them “killed”. But parents can’t be too ignorant either. They can’t let their child come home at 12:00 a.m. and get away with it. Parents need to be balanced with their punishments. They can’t be too strict or too soft with disciplining them. Otherwise, the child won’t grow up right and be able to survive in the real world.
Jonathan Meyer
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"A great parent knows how to say no. Many parents find that it’s tough to be firm with their children. They can’t set rules. They threaten but don’t follow through with consequences. ‘No television for a week,’ a mom may tell her child in the afternoon, only to make an exception that very night. But the fact is, if we relinquish our parental authority, we are doing a disservice to our kids." Says Parents, May, 2011, p.113. This is a very true statement. Parents definitely need to be firm with their kids and punish them when they do something bad, such as punching another kid, and when they misbehave. If parents don’t punish their kids or hold firm on punishments, then their kids won’t learn a lesson and will continue misbehaving. For example, in the school I have visited the kids curse, yell, and misbehave all the time. I went there to visit once and I saw the Kindergarteners cursing at the teachers, and the teachers couldn’t and wouldn’t do anything about it. All of the kids were noisy and disrespectful and most teachers didn’t do anything about it. They didn’t punish them or send them to the principle, rather they just let them continue not doing work and fooling around. This makes the kids think that what they are doing is okay since no one says otherwise. I assume that their parents are the same way, so the kids don’t know how to act and may grow up to be very rude people that can’t hold a job or keep friends because no one likes the way they act and behave, such as doing no work or disrespecting their bosses.
Another incident that I have witnessed where an adult doesn’t punish their disrespecting child is a person I know. He, who shall not be named, used to always yell at his/her parent. Every time I went to his/her house their parent would tell them to do a chore, such as clean up and they would freak. They would yell and insult their parent and curse and complain about the chore. They were completely rude and I couldn’t understand why they did it. But worse is that their parent did nothing. They didn’t punish them by grounding them or taking away privileges, they just yelled back. When they yelled back it accomplished nothing and without punishment the child never learned or stopped. This happened every time I visited, and the times the parent did punish them, the child just disregarded the punishment, per say watching TV when their permission to do so was taken away, and the parent never reinforced their decision and never checked on us to make sure we weren’t watching TV. After a while I stopped visiting because of the disrespect and lack of discipline. When a parent never is firm with their child, their child loses respect for them and doesn't behave well. It is a problem with their relationship, the child’s behavior, and even makes people witnessing uneasy and uncomfortable. Parents need to be firm, or else something like this may happen.
Zach Forrest
ReplyDeleteIn modern America, most parents are not very firm with their children. This being, that whenever they receive a punishment, many parents relieve them of that much sooner than they say they will. This can have negative consequences down the road. As I walk through school and attend classes, I see that many students see their teachers as their friends, rather than authority. Linking this back to parents, if a child is punished firmly, he will know not to do the wrong he did again. However, if the punishment is lifted, not only does that encourage him to do whatever he did again, he also loses respect for his parents, authority figures, and also doesn’t take his other authority, his teachers, seriously.
However, it is also important for a parent to not to be too strict. If apparent punishes a child for every little slip up, and or makes punishments far too severe than necessary, a child begins to fear their parents. In a healthy household, children shouldn’t fear their mom and dad, instead, they should feel comfortable and safe around them. While at the same time, maintaining the respect a parent deserves.
Andy Cifuentes
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9/23/13
I believe that parents should be strict with their children. Showing young children and teenagers that they aren't the ones that run things is always a good thing. It would teach kids a lesson and they would end up respecting older individuals. Most parents nowadays don't punish their disrespectful kids which is a very bad thing. The kids will end up being the kid that doesn't give a damn about anything and does whatever they want, even in front of their parents! That is not right! Kids aren't the ones running the rulebook. Being a strict parent may sometimes seem unfair for the kids but they are preparing them for the real world. Kids that follow the rules and don't get punished much end up growing up to be very well mannered individual. Us as kids may not see it but our parents are trying to get us ready to face the challenges that our lives are going to bring us. Some teenagers sometimes fall into harsh things like drugs or get into gangs like many people I used to know. Parents attempt to save kids from these obstacles but those parents that aren't strict always end up losing their child for the bad things. Punishments teach us a lesson. If we do something that causes us to get grounded for 2 weeks by not going out or watching TV or using our phones makes us think of the better. Most kids wouldn't even attempt to do the thing that caused them to get punished in the first place. This area would be so much better if all those people that don't have strict parents actually had someone that yelled at them and made them pay for what they have done wrong.
Parents should actually commit to being a strict parent. Parents should punish their kids and make them go through their whole punishment. A few hours of a punishment isn't going to make their kids behave better next time. Their punishments should be long so they could think about what they have done. That is the only way they could learn their lesson. They should go through a week of a punishment. That is the only way kids won't rebel. Being TOO strict can also cause a conflict! Parents should always be really chill and outgoing with their kids. By strict, parents should make their kids do their homework and listen to the rules. Abuse is never the way to go either. Children would just rebel against their parents if they are getting hit very often or not allowed to do certain things that they want to do occasionally like go to the movies or the mall or even their friends house. Giving a little bit of freedom to children but as well be little strict will make the perfect child. Children need to also live their life by experiencing things in the outside world. Being a parent must be difficult task but they shouldn't their kids complete freedom.
It is agreeable that parents in general should be firm with disciplining their children. In many cases, however, being too discipline with one's children often leads the youth to rebel and triggers them to step out of their rules. Being too strict with children or teenagers would make them feel depressed, uncomfortable, irritated, and angered. In many cases, stress and the youth's irritation would lead them to think that breaking rules would relax them and make them felt that they are rebellious. Teens or children would felt pleased when going against their highly strict parents. As an example, one of the people I've worked with has dropped out of school and has done many things that if the parent acknowledges, it would shock them. Surprisingly, the reason my co-worker had a ruined life is because the parent is too strict. They wouldn't allow their children to have friends because they claimed that social lives ruins and distracts their children from education. In reality it's themselves who pressured their children too much which caused them to quite school.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, it is necessary for parents to be firm with their children. In our society nowadays, children do not know how to behave properly which will lead the new generations to be more disrespectful, wild, and improper. It is important for the new generations to be taught and disciplined harshly since many young individuals are stubborn and would take years and experience to give them life lessons. Many examples of disrespectful and undisciplined children can be seen in many social networks. They would post and comment inappropriate posts and medias since they weren't taught that one day the social networks would report them. It is highly important that adults should look over them while their children is online.
"A great parent knows how to say no. Many parents find that it’s tough to be firm with their children. They can’t set rules. They threaten but don’t follow through with consequences. ‘No television for a week,’ a mom may tell her child in the afternoon, only to make an exception that very night. But the fact is, if we relinquish our parental authority, we are doing a disservice to our kids." This quote was printed on an issue of Parents magazine in 2011. I do believe that parents do need to learn to be more firm with their children. If parents do not punish their children they can be rebellious and think could get away with anything. Therefore, they can get in a lot of trouble with things. If parents do not show their children discipline now they will never learn as they get older. The children may be lazy and decide not to do any work. Kids may decide not to do anything if their parents do not tell them to do their work so, they won’t. They will not accomplish anything. Children may also be disrespectful. When parents do not punish their children they lose respect toward them thinking that they will never get in trouble with them. Therefore, it is important for parents do discipline their children so that they don’t end up with a bad attitude.
ReplyDeleteIt is important for parents to discipline their children because it could have an effect on the future. If parents do not disciple children they will not be able to learn anything. Children who know their parents will discipline them on doing wrong things will know not to make the same mistakes again. The children know parents will discipline them if they don’t do well in school Therefore, to avoid getting disciplined the children try to do their best. A small discipline such as being grounded or having privileges revoked prepares children not to do the same mistake. It teaches children that actions have consequences. Children who don’t learn this lesson might not learn it in the future. They will learn as adults but, in a harsher manner. They won’t be kids anymore in which they don’t any better. Adults should know how to watch over their actions so, if they get in trouble there will be worse consequences. Children learn things from their parents. When the children are all grown up and have kids of their own, they will learn how to raise them and discipline them. They learn this from their own parents. A child who was never disciplined may not know how to discipline their own children. Therefore, it is important for parents to discipline their children because no matter how upset the child is at the parent, they will learn something from them.
I agree with the idea that parents need to be firm in disciplining their children. I’ve heard opinions being shared that our generation of children are being babied. I believe that that opinion is true due to things that I’ve witnessed myself in my household. For instance, my little brother, Brandon, misbehaves and whines and that leads to a threat of punishment but my dad doesn’t follow through. My dad threatens Brandon to no video games after dinner, but he doesn’t take it seriously and Brandon ends up playing video games happily the same night. How is that going to teach him anything? It won’t teach him anything! Now that he knows that my Dad just said that to scare him and he won’t actually take action, he is going to continue to whine and misbehave. That is a confusing and terrible way of raising and disciplining a child.
ReplyDeleteAn example of disciplining that is not taking seriously is the technique of giving an adolescent money for doing well on a report card. The point of giving a child money for the grades they receive on their report card is for motivation. The money given which is a reward will motivate and encourage a student to put the effort in school and do well. But, if cash is still a reward for grades that aren’t so good and/or haven’t improved, that’s not teaching or motivation to do better the next time. Don’t you think the adolescent will catch on that no matter how much or little effort they use in school, they will get paid either way. That’s not a way to demonstrate strict rules.
I personally believe modern parenting is a joke. First of all, parents aren't strict enough with there children. Every day I see kids running around like maniacs and their parents chasing them. All the parents do is embarrass themselves. How is that possible? My parents would never let me do that or I would never have done that because that's how good of parents I've had. Also its not how good your parents have been its how strict they are. The stricter the parents the more obeying the child would be.
ReplyDeleteFurthermore, parents do not follow up on their punishments. I've witnessed parents say "your not going to watch t.v for a week," and then a day later they let them watch t.v. The only way for children to listen is to make them fear the parents so they get scared and don't do it again. Parents need to discipline their children and to do that they need to make there child fear to listen. "Before there is learning there must be fear,"- Jeff Nolan.
Most parents don’t know or just can’t keep up with the punishments they give their kids, and it shows weakness. With weakness children start to do whatever they want and it might end up in a physical punishment. But what kind punishment is better for children and how much more authority parents would have if they back up the punishment?
ReplyDeleteFor parents to show power and authority over their children they need to keep up with their punishments. Most parents take a privilege away from their child and end up giving it back or forgetting about it about a few hours to a few days later. Once the child has found that none of his or hers punishments will last more than two days, they will take that to their advantage. There will be a point where the child will begin to rebel against the parents. Once the child begins to rebel it will take what will feel like an eternity to get the child back in line. If the parents are not able to control the child by barking at them, then the punishment might just turn physical.
When the punishment is physical, it’s not fun for anyone. Parents don’t like to hurt their children and children hate not being able to sit right for a week. A physical punishment should never be an option, but there are some children who only learn when they get hurt physically. A physical beat down won’t get the parents their authority back it will only cause the child to fear them. Even if the fear is keeping the child under control it won’t be for long and afterwards the child will receive another physical punishment. The cycle will then continue from there and won’t end until the child listens to the parents without fear. Parents need to learn to be stern and punish their kids without getting physical and ending up in a cycle that might not end for weeks or longer.
Sydney White
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September 24th, 2013
I believe that parents should be firm with their children. I think this because disciplining your children now can put a huge effect on the person they want to be when they are older. For example, if you do not discipline your child enough they might think they can do whatever they want and they could have a bad future, but if you give your child the discipline they need, they might learn from that and become a stronger person, and have a better future. The way a parent acts towards their kid is very important to the kid, and it might change the way the kid acts. For instance, say you have a kid who is five years old and he take his moms shirt and starts ripping it, and biting it. A kid should get disciplined for that so it doesn’t happen on a daily basis, but the child should not get disciplined in a sense where he is afraid of his or her parent.
Parents should be strict, but not to strict. Parents should punish there kids by not letting them hangout with their friends for a day, or not letting them watch TV. Parents should not give them too much discipline because then it might affect the way that they “look” at their parents. Kids look as their parents to be role models, but if you discipline your child too badly they might think otherwise. A little bit of discipline here and there will not hurt the child it will only help them. Parents should be strict to their child/children, because their children have two ways to go, its either they suffer the pain of discipline, or suffer the pain of regret.
My view of the idea that parents need to be more firm in disciplining their children is that parents need to be strict with their children but not to strict. For example, some parents yell and scream at their kids and don’t let them do anything and don’t let them have any freedom what so ever. Parents need to be half and half with their kids, not too subtle and not too strict. They shouldn’t come on too easy and nice to their kids, but not too mean either. Like my mom always says “parents don’t want to be your friend and they don’t try to be your friend either, so as long as you do what you’re supposed to there won’t be any problems.” I try my best to follow everything my mom tells me so I don’t get in trouble, but sometimes I do slip on occasion and forget, but I’m human.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, parents do need to have more rules for their children as they get older because if you don’t set rules for them then they think that can do anything they want. As kids get older they are more likely to do what ever they think they can do if their parents don’t set rules. Parents should become stricter as their children get older that is honestly my opinion.
Landin Morris
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September 24, 2013
Assignment:
What is your view of the idea that parents need to be firm in disciplining their children? Plan and write a 2-paragraph response that explains your ideas as persuasively as possible. Support your position with an argument and examples for each paragraph you develop. Use two detailed and specific examples. Elaborate with sensory images whenver possible.
Response
Parents always need to remember to stay firm with their children. It is important for parents to stay firm with their children because if they are not then there children will think that they can do whatever they want, and just get out of trouble easily. For example, let’s imagine that I was running in the house when my mother has previously warned me not to do so, and I crash into a table, and break a vase. My mother finds out what I did and grounds me for it and takes away my phone, but then lets me get off of punishment early, and gives me back my phone. Now, in my head I believe I run around in the house and she won’t take any action against it because she wasn’t being firm with me like she should have. But if we change the situation, and my mother does ground me and sticks to her word, this means that next time if I am, or if I’m thinking about running in the house, I will think about her disciplining me, and know that it’s not worth getting my phone taken away. I know that taking a bad action such as that isn’t worth the consequences and I will think twice before doing it again. Also when parents aren’t firm with their kids inside of the household, then children take that logic with them where ever they, thinking they will be let off easily, which leads me into my second reason.
Another reason why parent should be firm with their children is because if they are not, their children will take this logic with them everywhere they go. For example, if my mother isn’t firm with me inside the house, then the I’m going to take that reckless behavior everywhere I go. Then, one day I get into trouble at school, and as a punishment I get detention. Even though it was my reckless and stupid decisions that got me into the detention in the first place, this is also my mom faults for making me believe that I’m invincible. This is why it is important for parents to be firm with their children. Kids need to know that sometimes it only takes bad move that can take you five steps back. Kids need to know the rules and regulations so they can follow them and enforce them so they aren’t getting into trouble. This is a lesson that kids can’t just teach themselves, it is of high importance that parents teach their kids this, so children can think twice next time to prevent making a bad move.
My view of the idea that parents need to be firm in disciplining their children is that they need to punish the child once very harshly. In doing so you show the child never to do what ever he did again. For example when my sister stole some legos from the store my mom punished her suavely. She took away her tv privlagis so she was not able to watch tv for a full week . For a young child it would seem like a whole month. My mom also didn’t let her have friends over. She didn’t let her have desert for whole month. Lastly she made her go to bed an hour earlier. Ever sense then she never stole or disobeyed or got in trouble with my mom ever again.
ReplyDeleteAnother example of one time harsh parental punishment is when I got in a fight at my old school before John P Faber Elementary School. What the fight was about was standing up for my self against bullies. The other kid didn’t get in trouble but I did. The same punishment that happened to my sister happened to me fist when I was young. I lost my tv and desert for a month. Back then it seemed like it was for a year. I also couldn’t hang out with my friends. Lastly I had to promise never to get in a fight ever again. Ever sense then I have never got in a physical fight or disobeyed my mom.
Growing up I had strict parents that always followed through with punishments and threats. Now that I am older I realize that what they did actually helped make me a better more disciplined individual. Without those punishments and threats I would be rowdy, obnoxious, and ill mannered child. I am now aware of my actions and what consequence they will bring which is something my parents had to teach me. Being brought up by strict parents I had to maintain exceptional grades or come home to looks of disappointment. I found this to be helpful because it kept me attentive in class and gave me good work ethic.
ReplyDeleteAlthough, there is a thing as being too strict and too lenient. Being too strict is dangerous to the development of a child’s maturity and respect toward that parent. If a parent is too strict that child might retaliate and often provoke that parent. If a parent is too lenient then their child would probably have a laid back attitude towards school in which their grades would slip. A parent’s most important duty is to care and teach their child. If the right amount of discipline is not enforced this child can be unpredictable and have a bad view of life.
Parent- verb, meaning ; to be or act as a mother or father to (someone). There have been many conundrums consisting of what a "good" parent really is. I personally believe that being a well illustrated parent does not mean that you must discipline your child more than you should be a companion to them. I believe this for many reasons. To wit, being too strict with a child may cause sneaky and delinquent behavior from the child themselves. Moving forward, from lack of companionship and being too over powering, you may lose a strong and well developed relationship between yourself and your child. Finishing off, many parents believe that being the demanding parent that they are, their child will become a strong and cultivated peer, student and individual. However, studies prove that most delinquent children are raised by overly strict parents. These are just some of the many reasons of why parents do not need to be so firm when disciplining their own child.
ReplyDeleteBeginning with, being too strict with a child may cause sneaky and delinquent behavior from the child themselves. For instance, if a child is bossed around to the point of not being allowed out at specific times from punishment or even a bed time, when the adolescent becomes of a certain age, the child will sneak out sooner or later. This may become a habit of sneaking around as well. Also, if a child gets punished too frequently and gets special items taken away too much, the child may inhabit becoming a thief. This is one example of why parents do not need to be as firm when disciplining a child.
Cascading through, from lack of companionship and being too over powering, you may lose a strong and well developed relationship between yourself and your child. For example, many young and naive children may try to fit in with their peers. To most of this specific generation, parents who punish and don't allow to have any fun at all can reflect on their own reputation. This will cause anger from the child and make the despise of their relationship with their parent. Moving forward, if all the parent ever does is yell and scream at their child, the child will not feel comfortable with sharing personal emotions with their parent. This is one other reason why parents do not need to be so strict when parenting.
Lastly, many parents believe that being the demanding parent that they are, their child will become a strong and cultivated peer, student and individual. However, studies prove that most delinquent children are raised by overly strict parents. To wit, when parents are over protective and don't allow their adolescent teenaged children to go out on their own, the child will feel as if their parent is too over powering. This can cause the child to become a delinquent child. It can start with the child doing poorly in school and go all the way to drop outs and ending up in a juvenile prison. Most of the the time, this is a scenario that takes place from the reason of the child wanting to get their parent's attention because of the fact that from the parent being so strict, they had an empty and hollow feeling of a guidance figure. This is the one of many other examples of why strict parents should ease up on their disciplining skills.
Being a strict parent can be helpful in many ways. However, when it is over done, many conflicts can take place. To wit, being too strict with a child may cause sneaky and delinquent behavior from the child themselves. Moving forward, from lack of companionship and being too over powering, you may lose a strong and well developed relationship between yourself and your child. Finishing off, many parents believe that being the demanding parent that they are, their child will become a strong and cultivated peer, student and individual. However, studies prove that most delinquent children are raised by overly strict parents.
Anthony Cifuentes
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9/25/13
The topic of good parenting has been pretty controversial over the past few years. Some adults believe it is good parenting if you’re strict, firm and disciplined to your children. Coming from a family who always believed that following through with punishments was the right choice, I agree that parents need to discipline their children. Parents seem to be a very difficult thing to do, especially if you want to do it the perfectly right way. Discipline may seem like a bad thing at first, but in the end, it’s only for the better of the child.
Discipline is the right way of parenting to me. Some children can only learn the hard way. If you follow through with your punishments, then the kids will learn. They’ll know that if you do something that their parents don’t condone, and then they’ll know never to do that ever again. You have to take advantage of your parental authority, and show your child that they have to learn better. Having a behaved and well-mannered son/daughter is everybody’s dream. If you can be firm with your child, then you can most likely achieve that dream.
A great parent would know what’s right for his or her child. They should be the ones to give them everything but when it comes to discipline it’s a whole different story. Some parents are finding it hard to keep their children under control. They need to start showing some discipline. Parents are not learning how to teach their children discipline. There are some parent that let their kids do whatever they want but when it becomes to controlling their kids they don’t listen. That could change their life if they grew up with parent that let them do whatever they want against the parents that don’t let them do anything.it could be like a life changing experience for some that grew up in harsh neighborhood.
ReplyDeleteHaving a firm discipline is important to have when parenting. Many parents now and days don’t discipline their children so they turn out being spoiled and/disrespectful. It aggravating when those certain parents say Oh my child doesn’t listen to me. Well of course he won’t if you don’t disciple. Eventually, when you do raise your voice at your child and serve some sort of punishment they will scream and yell or/and say I hate you, but that’s life. That’s just how parenting is. Dealing with disrespect.
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ReplyDeleteBeing a good parent isn’t always easy for some people. They struggle with how they should discipline their children. Some parents think disciple isn’t need. They think that if their child is doing something wrong they will learn from their mistakes, but it isn’t always like that. Sometimes you have to put a foot down and show who is really in charge. Sometimes giving disciple could change your child’s behavior
I think it is not a good idea to be firm in disciplining their children. I think it is a bad idea to treat your children bad. I would hate to see a child suffer cause their parent is always disciplining them. It may become child abuse after a while. For example I think children is they do bad in school should just get their Nintendo games taken and when they get a better grade they should return it. I don't think you should be really mean to them and punish them.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, I say this because most parents don't sit down with their son or daughter when they're doing their homework. I think all parents should help their children with their schoolwork. If they don't their children might do something bad in school and their parents will discipline them when it is their parents fault. This is what I think of being firm with their children.
I see how people say that a good parent shows discipline to their kids. However on the other hand some just say you’re grounded for a week just to let the child do what they want that same day. I can’t say which is a better parent. This is because they have their reasons for doing what they do and the rest of the people don’t know.
ReplyDeleteAlthough i do have my opinion which is that be a fun parent. However do know how to punish your child. The only thing is to keep your word. I am not a bad child but because I do know that if I do something bad I know what is coming to me. So if my parents were not strict I would do bad things all the time. So I do feel parents need to be strict but not all the time.
Discipline is a large part of raising a child. The amount of discipline you give your child really affects who that child will be as an adult. It all comes down to what type of relationship you want to have with your child. One of these child and parent relationships is where the parent wants to be the child's friend. They get to do whatever they want to do and the parents do not say a thing. The parents do not want to be looked at as mean, and want their children to think that they are cool. This child though, will grow up to be a snobby jerk that expects to get his way all the time. This is not his fault though, it is his parents. They raised him to believe that if he acted like a jerk he would get what he wanted, even though in reality, the exact opposite is true.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, there are the parents who are strict with their children. They do not let them watch television constantly and punishments are handed out for bad grades. They will likely make their kids cry and that same child may even wish they had new parents. The child may grow up resenting his or her parents, thinking that they are there just to ruin their lives. These children though, will grow up and will have to work for everything. They will be prepared though, and will thrive in their respective fields of work. It all comes down to the individual parents. Do they want kids to have this amazing childhood, and a sub-par adulthood, or do they want them to have an okay childhood and thrive in their adulthood.
i believe that parents in some cases need to be strict but in others they don’t. they don’t need to be strict as much about safety when they become over the age 13, they also don’t need to be strict when it comes to school unless it comes to disciplinary things. though they do need to strike all the time when kids are young otherwise the kid could become rotten and spoiled.
ReplyDeleteif the parents are too strict when the kids grow past the age of 13 then they will become distant and start to despise the parents though it might not seem like it. they will have silent fury at their parents. which could cause huge problems between parents and child.